Thus to live become attached to the parents, the family, to the children, is always an attitude well-sight. Already the indifference, in contrast, means not to bind for the parents, the family, the children, at last, for nothing. As consequence, who it acts thus, it is considered a worthless and egoistic person. In the reality, the attachment in them arrests something is of us. We wait to receive through it what we do not give to we ourselves spontaneously.
It appears of the lack of understanding, the respect and the love to our proper one to be (auto-love). Who lives become attached, lives in a capture situation. To have its image idealized in the other when losing loses it the existential referencial, generating for itself, a great existential difficulty. In the deep one, we become attached something or somebody to supply our lacks. Therefore, the attachment limits our interior growth.
We are always to the wait of that the other fills what in the lack. this involves our mind to such point, that it starts to determine our actions and thoughts. We become prisoners of our proper teia of apegos, we judge ourselves incapable to live without it. According to existential autogerenciamento, if will not be understood and surpassed, the attachment will act as an obstacle in the life of a person, hindering it to be independent and free. Happily, in the majority of the cases, the attachment is restricted only to a part of the person, therefore if thus it was not, it would have difficulty in assuming the proper life. On the other hand, the indifference is not a complete resignation to the corporeal properties, since we cannot do without these goods. The true indifference occurs when the value that we give to the things, to objects, the situations and the people never exceeds to the value that we give to we ourselves. To become desaffected is a difficult learning, since the lacks and necessities appear incessantly in our lives. that always we are frustrate, when we do not obtain to get what we desire. If it never forgets! The people are important, but you also have its proper importance.